sore-lips:

I find it really funny when people assume English (UK) and English (US) are exactly the same language. “Pull your pants up, I can see your fanny.” Has a very different meaning depending on what side of the globe you’re on.

Tue, 15th April • 79,058 notes

I just want black coffee and cuddles thanks

Tue, 15th April • 1 note

I have to be up at 7 and I’m the most uncomfortable I’ve ever been. I can’t think straight, never mind sleep

Tue, 15th April • 0 notes

Tue, 15th April • 764 notes

I feel like nothing

Tue, 15th April • 0 notes

thatdisneylover:

marmarbinks3:

I see 2007 and think “oh 3 years ago” and then it hits me that it was 7 fucking years ago

image

Mon, 14th April • 571,802 notes

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via lil-ith)

It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

(via geekdomme)

I will always reblog this. Always.

(via myherocomplex)

Thank you! I have guy friends who get all pissy when girls don’t see that they “are just being nice” when they try to use what they think is exposure therapy but actually just continues to erode our opinion of dude bros. LADIES this applies to you also! As an aspie I’ve had so many moments where women tried to force friendship on me and it scared me half to death. Learn to read body language people!

(via herbwitch)

Mon, 14th April • 108,926 notes

This week seems like party central and yet I have a stack of revision that’s bigger than me. Priorities or life???

Mon, 14th April • 0 notes

Mon, 14th April • 96,668 notes

fuks:

i cant get over this 

Mon, 14th April • 268 notes
My dog keeps cuddling her teddy and it’s adorable

thegoddess-afrodite:

reblogalert:

Lifehack: Accidentally text the wrong person? Immediately put your phone on airplane mode and once it fails to deliver, delete the message.

This can save lives

Mon, 14th April • 190,861 notes

shubbabang:

image

image

image

image

image

image

image

consent is a hell of a thing aint it

Mon, 14th April • 91,312 notes

Mon, 14th April • 646,003 notes